1. Work for me is most effective when it’s enjoyable, unique, relevant, fulfilling, and progressive. If what I do consistently fails to deliver these criteria, it’s time to review what changes need to be made.
2. In this context, living to work for me is as important as working to live. So I see my best work not as a means to an end but rather the (enjoyable, unique, relevant, fulfilling, and progressive) means that engenders the end.
3. I'm not responsible for others, but I am in how I respond.
My moment to moment experience (including my responses) always follows and is created by my thinking. Remembering this, provides me with an opportunity to choose which thoughts to pay attention to, and which not. This is my responsibility; the ability to respond or not to my thoughts. It is also free will.
4. Listening only to my own personal thoughts gets noisy. Only a quiet mind hears wisdom. The same applies to my clients.
5. A core question I want to ask more of is ‘how is this [thought and/or feeling] useful?’ I'm not interested in whether its right/wrong, good/bad, true/not true. Asking whether a thought or feeling is useful however is always generative; encouraging me to look I a direction which in and of itself further informs and shapes the adventure - or not. Either way, this is useful.
6. When coaching, I take my lead from that part of me which connects with the person I'm working with, acknowledging the innate infinite intelligence beneath the surface, which is available to both of us.
7. A main purpose of my work is to help bring about peace of mind through the confidence of being part of an infinitely wider system designed to self-heal.
This inevitably brings with it a sense of forgiveness, compassion, playful curiosity, freedom and ultimately completeness. It enables us to really feel and trust insight (fresh thinking).
True insight lies beyond the intellect leaving space for it to do what it is designed for best - informed by insight.
8. Knowledge is power, and as an emergent quality is something we all have.
9. There's a part inside all of us (we may call it resilience) which remains healthy and kind; untouched by all that happens to us.
10. Acknowledgement and gratitude are strong catalysts for change; synchronising our personal mind with the impersonal infinite mind.
"All humans have the inner ability to synchronize their personal mind with their impersonal mind to bring harmony in their lives."
11. All emotions can be traced either to the roots of love, completeness, belonging, security; or fear, separation, attachment, insecurity. Every thought, word, and resultant action moves us towards or away from these polarities, moment to moment. Experience always follows thought. But we can choose which of our thoughts passing through moment by moment we take seriously, and which, to dismiss. In this way, we can always choose how we experience life.
12. Everything in life and work involves relationship. The true purpose and function of any relationship is a joining of Mind. Fragmentation and separation bring pain and this takes many different forms.
this page last updated november 2017