I'M WITH GEORGE ON THIS ONE!
The Golden Rule as you’ll know, is the name given to the universal principle of reciprocity found in various forms in all the main world religions.
“Do unto others what you would like to be done to you”
It's been around for quite a while – at least since Confucius - and so as I'd not until recently thought to question it's wisdom!
But then I read somewhere that the Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw allegedly said this about it -
“Do not do unto others as you would that they should do unto you. Their tastes may be different.”
This version of the Golden Rule really appeals to me - and certainly to the - some might say pedantic, part of me that gets upset when others seem to know what's best, without taking the trouble to first ask my view!
All of this reminds me of a favourite NLP presupposition (ie not necessarily true, but nevertheless considered often helpful) -
'The meaning of your communication is in the response you get’ .
Combining all the above three, we could perhaps say 'Find and if necessary, help others to find, what they would like - checking carefully all the while how they're responding.' I know it's a little wordy, but it will do for now!
The 3PS simplifies things further by reminding us of our innate compassion.
The Golden Rule is concerned with compassion, which arises from being and joining with another at every level. At the heart of compassion is the willingness to listen and simply to be with someone, recognising that we all share the same human experience, and that we’re all doing the best we can given our current state of mind.
And The Three Principles gently reminds us that we're able to do this only when we drop out of our own personal thinking.